What Chili Wants? Did anyone really conceptualize that ridiculous list Chili ran down in one of the first episode of “What Chili Wants”?  When we start seriously approaching dating with the intent of being married, instead of looking for the end result of a person’s qualities why no look for those key character traits that are important and will stand the test of time.  Such as instead of hoping and praying that he did not come with any previous children, was a certain weight, dressed a certain way, drove a certain car, or even made a certain amount of money.  You see those are statistics to me and even though I majored in Economics I would never want to marry a %. Why not look for things like the ability to love unconditionally, an avid communicator that never wants to stop talking to his mate, the drive get up and go to make things happen in life.  So you see with qualities like that it doesn’t really matter if you didn’t really like the way he dressed when you all first met.  If he loves talking and sharing things with you, you become best friends and we all know you can tell your best friend “Hey you know those pants are a little short, your favorite Nike shirt is dead/done due to fading, or that shirt is not the business…” But on the serious tip instead of searching for people that come to the “table” with a list of “things” why not open yourself up to a love where once you all get together everything and anything is possible.  When you both have all the individual personalities when combined anything can be achieved… even stop eating pork together, work out to get a 12 pack together, or stop smoking.  You don’t want to marry someone because of all they “don’t” come with but all the timeless qualities they do come with that make them who they are.  Wake up people!  At some people serial singleness is no one’s fault but your own.  Yes I am sure a lot of people would be angry at this comment but I assure you that I have checked myself.  I looked back over my dating life and it was filled with a few men where it was just wasted time being with them or even continuing to date them.  My favorite sanity check was when a wise woman told me to look back over my relationships and if each one did not continue getting better i.e If I did not see myself start accepting men into my life that increasingly more and more started having the qualities that you wanted to marry then as a woman something was wrong with me and my choices.  My single woman pitty party conversation quickly changed from I am single because he did this, he did that, or that to you know what I am single because of my choices.  Then I felt empowered because when you finally know better you do better.

What Chili Wants?

Did anyone really conceptualize that ridiculous list Chili ran down in one of the first episode of “What Chili Wants”?  When we start seriously approaching dating with the intent of being married, instead of looking for the end result of a person’s qualities why no look for those key character traits that are important and will stand the test of time.  Such as instead of hoping and praying that he did not come with any previous children, was a certain weight, dressed a certain way, drove a certain car, or even made a certain amount of money.  You see those are statistics to me and even though I majored in Economics I would never want to marry a %. Why not look for things like the ability to love unconditionally, an avid communicator that never wants to stop talking to his mate, the drive get up and go to make things happen in life.  So you see with qualities like that it doesn’t really matter if you didn’t really like the way he dressed when you all first met.  If he loves talking and sharing things with you, you become best friends and we all know you can tell your best friend “Hey you know those pants are a little short, your favorite Nike shirt is dead/done due to fading, or that shirt is not the business…”

But on the serious tip instead of searching for people that come to the “table” with a list of “things” why not open yourself up to a love where once you all get together everything and anything is possible.  When you both have all the individual personalities when combined anything can be achieved… even stop eating pork together, work out to get a 12 pack together, or stop smoking.  You don’t want to marry someone because of all they “don’t” come with but all the timeless qualities they do come with that make them who they are.  Wake up people!  At some people serial singleness is no one’s fault but your own.  Yes I am sure a lot of people would be angry at this comment but I assure you that I have checked myself.  I looked back over my dating life and it was filled with a few men where it was just wasted time being with them or even continuing to date them.  My favorite sanity check was when a wise woman told me to look back over my relationships and if each one did not continue getting better i.e If I did not see myself start accepting men into my life that increasingly more and more started having the qualities that you wanted to marry then as a woman something was wrong with me and my choices.  My single woman pitty party conversation quickly changed from I am single because he did this, he did that, or that to you know what I am single because of my choices.  Then I felt empowered because when you finally know better you do better.

My rant for the day is…and brace yourself because it is RANDOM….if I hear another single black woman say that she is not attracted to a guy because he wears skinny jeans/pants I think I may SCREAM! Not to mention I just finished re-watching ABC Nightline’s special from last night about the single “epidemic” in the black community.  But more to come in future posts on my notes from watching the special.   Now this is as simple as going to H&M in the men’s department and picking up the latest style jeans but it has huge implications for that first approach when you meet a man.  So any who anyone out there male or female be honest with yourself if you have pushed a good man or woman out of your path because of simply what they may have had on that day please go jump in the Chattahoochee River swim to Columbus and back to Atlanta.  I have often heard the argument that “my man/woman has to be attractive in every way to me”. Blah…blah..blah.  Do you know that whatever you are not “feelin” that he or she may have on may just go out of style one day? Maybe just one day?  Or even the woman who wants to be spoiled and showered with gifts but you behind on your car note living check to check.  Or better yet men or women you say you want a God fearing man or woman but you are not quite on board with abstinence before marriage.   I will take one quote from the ABC special…”Be who you are asking for.” Just like the couple on the picture.  If he can’t wear skinny jeans well hell you can’t either. Hill Harper made a good point. 95% of women want to marry a prototype that only 5% of black men fit.  Vice versa men also want what they are not.  I don’t know about you but rather be at the Nike Outlet store figuring out what fresh dunks to surprise him with any day.  Random I know but those that know me understand.  

My rant for the day is…and brace yourself because it is RANDOM….if I hear another single black woman say that she is not attracted to a guy because he wears skinny jeans/pants I think I may SCREAM! Not to mention I just finished re-watching ABC Nightline’s special from last night about the single “epidemic” in the black community.  But more to come in future posts on my notes from watching the special.  

Now this is as simple as going to H&M in the men’s department and picking up the latest style jeans but it has huge implications for that first approach when you meet a man.  So any who anyone out there male or female be honest with yourself if you have pushed a good man or woman out of your path because of simply what they may have had on that day please go jump in the Chattahoochee River swim to Columbus and back to Atlanta.  I have often heard the argument that “my man/woman has to be attractive in every way to me”. Blah…blah..blah.  Do you know that whatever you are not “feelin” that he or she may have on may just go out of style one day? Maybe just one day?  Or even the woman who wants to be spoiled and showered with gifts but you behind on your car note living check to check.  Or better yet men or women you say you want a God fearing man or woman but you are not quite on board with abstinence before marriage.  

I will take one quote from the ABC special…”Be who you are asking for.” Just like the couple on the picture.  If he can’t wear skinny jeans well hell you can’t either. Hill Harper made a good point. 95% of women want to marry a prototype that only 5% of black men fit.  Vice versa men also want what they are not.  I don’t know about you but rather be at the Nike Outlet store figuring out what fresh dunks to surprise him with any day.  Random I know but those that know me understand.  

Dating Nuptials I recently saw a report on Good Morning America about a new concept of dating nuptials. Yes, it is what you are thinking it is just like pre-nuptial agreements where couples lay those fine lines down regarding rules of engagement while committing to each with the “idea” and openness that things may not work out .  It seems to give a certain level of piece of mind and makes life easier since agreements are reached up front as to expectations of what falls out of the break out.  Now with pre-nuptials you hear a lot about visitation with children, alimony, split up of assets, etc.  With dating nuptials otherwise single (not yet married) couples committing to each other also disclose that in the event of a break up what each other expects.  Quoting the lady “I told him if he ever cheats on me I get the dog”.  I was shocked that people were actually doing this and “coining” a term for it.  But I clearly understand and of course I am a big advocate of strong communication in relationships.  So who knows what you may learn about your guy or gal potential wifey or hubby what they value when things get rough. Everyone has been through at least a few break ups and it can get nasty.  I saw all this to say that there is nothing wrong with dating nuptials but think about it in terms of before you even get in “bed” with your partner to understand your feelings toward each other and don’t be so quick to accumulate debt, assets, and investments together early on in the relationship even pre-engagement.

Dating Nuptials

I recently saw a report on Good Morning America about a new concept of dating nuptials. Yes, it is what you are thinking it is just like pre-nuptial agreements where couples lay those fine lines down regarding rules of engagement while committing to each with the “idea” and openness that things may not work out .  It seems to give a certain level of piece of mind and makes life easier since agreements are reached up front as to expectations of what falls out of the break out.  Now with pre-nuptials you hear a lot about visitation with children, alimony, split up of assets, etc.  With dating nuptials otherwise single (not yet married) couples committing to each other also disclose that in the event of a break up what each other expects.  Quoting the lady “I told him if he ever cheats on me I get the dog”.  I was shocked that people were actually doing this and “coining” a term for it.  But I clearly understand and of course I am a big advocate of strong communication in relationships.  So who knows what you may learn about your guy or gal potential wifey or hubby what they value when things get rough. Everyone has been through at least a few break ups and it can get nasty.  I saw all this to say that there is nothing wrong with dating nuptials but think about it in terms of before you even get in “bed” with your partner to understand your feelings toward each other and don’t be so quick to accumulate debt, assets, and investments together early on in the relationship even pre-engagement.

The Larae Agency is now focused on the research and development behind the lack of black marriages and the “plight” of being a single dating in America.  You will continue seeing blogging about relationship topics on the “Mind of Larae” and referring you to the events where you can meet good quality single men and women. Here is a hot new singles event in Atlanta I highly recommend you check out if you are not busy tonight.  If you are don’t worry this organization is committed to planning exciting new events every month. Attached is the flyer and below is the event information for an event well worth your time if you don’t have plans tonight. Website: www.FlirtTherapy.com 03.11.10 MIX [+] MINGLE [+] FLIRT ******* VIA Lounge ******* 262 PHARR RD. NW ATLANTA, GA 30305 Everyone FREE B4 10PM $10 AFTER 10PM FLIRT UNTIL 3AM $5 WINE [+] $5 VODKA DRINKS [+] GREAT MUSIC & AMBIANCE CLASSIC HIP-HOP [+] R&B [+] FEATURING ATL’S NEW & SEXY INTERACTIVE ICEBREAKER MIX [+] MINGLE [+] SCREW SCREWING HAS NEVER BEEN THIS FUN! ALL GUYS GET A BOLT [+] ALL LADIES GET A NUT FIND THE PERFECT MATCH & MAKE NEW CONNECTIONS *** Please Call or Email for Directions if You Need *** The web: www.FlirtTherapy.com The Hotline: 678-887-7723 *** RSVP for discounted admission, free drinks & other specials. ***

The Larae Agency is now focused on the research and development behind the lack of black marriages and the “plight” of being a single dating in America.  You will continue seeing blogging about relationship topics on the “Mind of Larae” and referring you to the events where you can meet good quality single men and women.

Here is a hot new singles event in Atlanta I highly recommend you check out if you are not busy tonight.  If you are don’t worry this organization is committed to planning exciting new events every month.

Attached is the flyer and below is the event information for an event well worth your time if you don’t have plans tonight.

Website: www.FlirtTherapy.com

03.11.10

MIX [+] MINGLE [+] FLIRT

******* VIA Lounge *******

262 PHARR RD. NW

ATLANTA, GA 30305

Everyone FREE B4 10PM

$10 AFTER 10PM

FLIRT UNTIL 3AM

$5 WINE [+] $5 VODKA DRINKS

[+] GREAT MUSIC & AMBIANCE

CLASSIC HIP-HOP [+] R&B

[+] FEATURING ATL’S NEW & SEXY INTERACTIVE ICEBREAKER

MIX [+] MINGLE [+] SCREW

SCREWING HAS NEVER BEEN THIS FUN!

ALL GUYS GET A BOLT [+] ALL LADIES GET A NUT

FIND THE PERFECT MATCH & MAKE NEW CONNECTIONS

*** Please Call or Email for Directions if You Need ***

The web: www.FlirtTherapy.com

The Hotline: 678-887-7723

*** RSVP for discounted admission, free drinks & other specials. ***

Single & Serious About Finding True Love: Clubbing 101: DON’T GO!! So I went out to a club this past weekend….yes a smoked out, sweaty, packed, popping bottles club.  A friend of mine was dead set on celebrating her birthday and it took everything I had to get enough get up and go to get there.  Grudgingly I walked into the pungent smell of marijuana and I knew I was in trouble.  We walked through the crowd, down some stairs to the VIP area where her table was.  We sit down and the alcohol starts coming. I knew I was not drinking so I started off just hanging with the girls then moved to just filling my cup with cranberry juice and ice because I was tired of people asking me if I wanted a drink.  I even had a random dude say “Excuse me shawty I don’t mean you no disrespect but they got plenty of alcohol in here so quit babysitting that drink….” *blank stare & swivel back around* As the night progressed I realize there is no way I am going to make myself look like I was having a ton of fun like everyone else so I go into my people watching that ultimately leads  to feeling compelled to roll this blog out.  I continue analyzing the club life and realized that a possible reason why we may be seeing older singles.  Are we clubbing way to long into our early 30’s?  Sexy, single, serious about finding the one, and the club don’t match.  Let me paint a picture for you… VIP throwing dollar bills in the air making it rain….. no one picks up any money because you don’t want to be the one flagrantly looking like an average “joe”.  I young woman flapping around the club getting her birthday on drunk as ever.  Now I am not trying to paint the picture of myself as nun.  I did go to college and I did move away to a new city for my first job and I did have fun.  However guess how old I was???  Between the age of 18 and 25.  When I turned 25, my whole outlook on life changed.  What is all the clubbing for?  What kind of high are you chasing?  No one will ever be able to convince me over the age of 25, single, and serious about finding love how fun hanging in a club, getting your hair and clothes smoked out, while a bunch on non-potential husband and wives dance, pop bottles, and make dollar bills rain around you.  It was not until I removed myself from the club life did I start meeting men that were serious about life, finding love, and ready to embrace it.  Your thoughts?

Single & Serious About Finding True Love: Clubbing 101: DON’T GO!!

So I went out to a club this past weekend….yes a smoked out, sweaty, packed, popping bottles club.  A friend of mine was dead set on celebrating her birthday and it took everything I had to get enough get up and go to get there.  Grudgingly I walked into the pungent smell of marijuana and I knew I was in trouble.  We walked through the crowd, down some stairs to the VIP area where her table was.  We sit down and the alcohol starts coming. I knew I was not drinking so I started off just hanging with the girls then moved to just filling my cup with cranberry juice and ice because I was tired of people asking me if I wanted a drink.  I even had a random dude say “Excuse me shawty I don’t mean you no disrespect but they got plenty of alcohol in here so quit babysitting that drink….” *blank stare & swivel back around*

As the night progressed I realize there is no way I am going to make myself look like I was having a ton of fun like everyone else so I go into my people watching that ultimately leads  to feeling compelled to roll this blog out.  I continue analyzing the club life and realized that a possible reason why we may be seeing older singles.  Are we clubbing way to long into our early 30’s?  Sexy, single, serious about finding the one, and the club don’t match.  Let me paint a picture for you… VIP throwing dollar bills in the air making it rain….. no one picks up any money because you don’t want to be the one flagrantly looking like an average “joe”.  I young woman flapping around the club getting her birthday on drunk as ever.  Now I am not trying to paint the picture of myself as nun.  I did go to college and I did move away to a new city for my first job and I did have fun.  However guess how old I was???  Between the age of 18 and 25.  When I turned 25, my whole outlook on life changed.  What is all the clubbing for?  What kind of high are you chasing?  No one will ever be able to convince me over the age of 25, single, and serious about finding love how fun hanging in a club, getting your hair and clothes smoked out, while a bunch on non-potential husband and wives dance, pop bottles, and make dollar bills rain around you.  It was not until I removed myself from the club life did I start meeting men that were serious about life, finding love, and ready to embrace it.  Your thoughts?

After having a conversation on facebook, most men’s issues with finding women worth dating can be paired down to these 1) they expect the very worse from men 2) they really don’t respect us 3) when we do try to make things happen, they want us men to fail. Men there is one simple thing that you can put on your radar and maybe…. just maybe your dating life will look just that much brighter. You must, must, must ask her has she ever been in a relationship with a man that was just genuinely good to her. Of course if she answers yes follow-up and have her explain so you understand if he was truly a good man or did she just convince herself he was. If the answer is no you can look at her age and see if she is old enough to have experienced at least 2 and give her the benefit of the doubt but I suggest you run the other way. The most cynical women you come in contact with are ones in which all of their relationships have been with the worst men ever. They have had the men that run all over them, take advantage of them, sleep around, married with unknown children, etc. They are definitely expecting the very worse from men because that is all they have ever known. They don’t respect you because they have almost never had a man respect their heart, mind, and body. Of course they want you to fail because that is the reality of men they have created in their world of “A good man is hard to find.” I would even argue that they are right a good man is hard to find because they can’t see them.Women out there that have truly had a man care for and be the best man at that point in his life they could be to them are the ones that are worth the fight. They will never lose faith in the essence of what a good man is and are able to detect them. They are the ones that will be able to uncover and understand your insecurities as the man you are and have the ability to love you the way you need to be loved.So good men if you encounter women that have so much baggage they can fill a Delta Airlines 747 plane then they are not worth your time. Just like she could never convince a no good man to change his ways you will never be able to convince her that you are worth her time.

After having a conversation on facebook, most men’s issues with finding women worth dating can be paired down to these 1) they expect the very worse from men 2) they really don’t respect us 3) when we do try to make things happen, they want us men to fail. Men there is one simple thing that you can put on your radar and maybe…. just maybe your dating life will look just that much brighter. You must, must, must ask her has she ever been in a relationship with a man that was just genuinely good to her. Of course if she answers yes follow-up and have her explain so you understand if he was truly a good man or did she just convince herself he was. If the answer is no you can look at her age and see if she is old enough to have experienced at least 2 and give her the benefit of the doubt but I suggest you run the other way. 

The most cynical women you come in contact with are ones in which all of their relationships have been with the worst men ever. They have had the men that run all over them, take advantage of them, sleep around, married with unknown children, etc. They are definitely expecting the very worse from men because that is all they have ever known. They don’t respect you because they have almost never had a man respect their heart, mind, and body. Of course they want you to fail because that is the reality of men they have created in their world of “A good man is hard to find.” I would even argue that they are right a good man is hard to find because they can’t see them.

Women out there that have truly had a man care for and be the best man at that point in his life they could be to them are the ones that are worth the fight. They will never lose faith in the essence of what a good man is and are able to detect them. They are the ones that will be able to uncover and understand your insecurities as the man you are and have the ability to love you the way you need to be loved.

So good men if you encounter women that have so much baggage they can fill a Delta Airlines 747 plane then they are not worth your time. Just like she could never convince a no good man to change his ways you will never be able to convince her that you are worth her time.

Just a little quick hello to all. This is not a Larae original but I wanted to share with you ladies. Enjoy and Happy Monday!!“Some females are like apples growing on a tree. The best ones are always at the top; and the males don’t want to climb up high for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and maybe even getting hurt. Instead, they just take the rotten ones on the ground that aren’t as good, but are easy to pick up. To their dismay, sometimes, the apples at the top think that there is something wrong with them, when in reality, they’re truly amazing and delightfully delicious. Unfortunately, those special ones at the top will just have to wait for the right male to come along, the one who has the courage to climb all the way to the top of the tree and sometimes even brave enough to go out on the limb.” Author Unknown

Just a little quick hello to all. This is not a Larae original but I wanted to share with you ladies. Enjoy and Happy Monday!!

“Some females are like apples growing on a tree. The best ones are always at the top; and the males don’t want to climb up high for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and maybe even getting hurt. Instead, they just take the rotten ones on the ground that aren’t as good, but are easy to pick up. To their dismay, sometimes, the apples at the top think that there is something wrong with them, when in reality, they’re truly amazing and delightfully delicious. Unfortunately, those special ones at the top will just have to wait for the right male to come along, the one who has the courage to climb all the way to the top of the tree and sometimes even brave enough to go out on the limb.” 

Author Unknown

When thinking what kind of investment to make in the right man, ask yourself: Is he worth putting all this time and energy into? If so are you helping a friend OR a potential mate? If you think he is worth it as a friend then you must also look at this as a time investment in a long term friend and not a potential mate. You may think having this mindset sets proper boundaries. Who are you fooling? You would not even be having these thoughts if you did not love that man Period…AND it is okay to feel that. If that is the case then admit the reason you are helping him. But here is the thing if a man is confused to an extent that makes you uncomfortable, you must take this into serious consideration. This could be confusion about himself, career, being in a relationship, etc. He is obviously confused about life and you. The point is help a brother out however make sure you are keeping expectations at a point where your heart is not hurt if he decides not to alter his life for the better. Be truthful to yourself, open your eyes and don’t be blinded by what you can do for him in hopes that it benefits you. Are you building this man up for a purpose? What is that purpose? What are the reasons? Yes is heavy right? Especially if you are in love with him. This is your life you are living and you must stay committed to yourself first. We are not 22 year olds anymore that have time to waste on the right/wrong person. Right/wrong because that is the art of mixed up emotions: “The RIGHT thing at the WRONG time is still WRONG.” So what gives? You must figure out how to walk that fine line. If you want to help a man be the best him he can be encourage him to seek out the information and come to you with a plan to discuss, analyze, and make it happen. Men often measure being a man by the amount of control they have so let him be a man. Allow him lead this this life changing experience for him and keep doing you along the way. You cannot push and lead in your own way. You must let him figure things out. I am sure along the way you have given him some very useful information to help him. You want him to want to be successful. But he needs to want it BAD, taste, hunger, see it, VISION IT! Have faith that you planted the seed and now watch it grow. Because at the end of the day he has to come correct with a plan he believes he can accomplish and not that pity party ish.

When thinking what kind of investment to make in the right man, ask yourself: Is he worth putting all this time and energy into? If so are you helping a friend OR a potential mate? If you think he is worth it as a friend then you must also look at this as a time investment in a long term friend and not a potential mate. You may think having this mindset sets proper boundaries. Who are you fooling? You would not even be having these thoughts if you did not love that man Period…AND it is okay to feel that. If that is the case then admit the reason you are helping him. But here is the thing if a man is confused to an extent that makes you uncomfortable, you must take this into serious consideration. This could be confusion about himself, career, being in a relationship, etc. He is obviously confused about life and you. The point is help a brother out however make sure you are keeping expectations at a point where your heart is not hurt if he decides not to alter his life for the better. 

Be truthful to yourself, open your eyes and don’t be blinded by what you can do for him in hopes that it benefits you. Are you building this man up for a purpose? What is that purpose? What are the reasons? Yes is heavy right? Especially if you are in love with him. This is your life you are living and you must stay committed to yourself first. We are not 22 year olds anymore that have time to waste on the right/wrong person. Right/wrong because that is the art of mixed up emotions: “The RIGHT thing at the WRONG time is still WRONG.” 

So what gives? You must figure out how to walk that fine line. If you want to help a man be the best him he can be encourage him to seek out the information and come to you with a plan to discuss, analyze, and make it happen. Men often measure being a man by the amount of control they have so let him be a man. Allow him lead this this life changing experience for him and keep doing you along the way. You cannot push and lead in your own way. You must let him figure things out. I am sure along the way you have given him some very useful information to help him. You want him to want to be successful. But he needs to want it BAD, taste, hunger, see it, VISION IT! Have faith that you planted the seed and now watch it grow. Because at the end of the day he has to come correct with a plan he believes he can accomplish and not that pity party ish.

Who are you for love? Have you ever been in a relationship and took a step back and said who am I? What have I changed or altered about myself for love? Maybe you are the most independent woman or man ever and do not know what I am talking of. Chances are as much as you want to deny it you have indeed changed for love. The people we meet throughout our life place a stamp on us in such a way where you need to experience things and such that can shape you as an adult.  However, you must always ask yourself, if I was not in this relationship with this person would it all matter (the changes that is)?  Would I still dress the same, would I still be the same person, have the same friends, etc.  The love of your life will always have some influence and you both will enhance each other’s life experiences.  The key to remember is what are you doing that does not come so natural that you have to push yourself such that you are changing.  There is nothing about love that should change you but it should enhance and transform who you already are.  The second part to this is are you are doing it for yourself, him/her, or the greater good of the relationship? If it is not for some common goal or need in the relationship then you must ask yourself if is it to cure some daily insecurity, selfish request, etc you might just be making a temporary change and not a life changing transformation to move your relationship forward.

Who are you for love?

Have you ever been in a relationship and took a step back and said who am I? What have I changed or altered about myself for love? Maybe you are the most independent woman or man ever and do not know what I am talking of. Chances are as much as you want to deny it you have indeed changed for love. The people we meet throughout our life place a stamp on us in such a way where you need to experience things and such that can shape you as an adult.  However, you must always ask yourself, if I was not in this relationship with this person would it all matter (the changes that is)?  Would I still dress the same, would I still be the same person, have the same friends, etc.  The love of your life will always have some influence and you both will enhance each other’s life experiences.  The key to remember is what are you doing that does not come so natural that you have to push yourself such that you are changing.  There is nothing about love that should change you but it should enhance and transform who you already are.  The second part to this is are you are doing it for yourself, him/her, or the greater good of the relationship? If it is not for some common goal or need in the relationship then you must ask yourself if is it to cure some daily insecurity, selfish request, etc you might just be making a temporary change and not a life changing transformation to move your relationship forward.

Tis the season to be Jolly! Or if you are like some you are maybe more like “bah hum bug” another year single.  It is December 1st and you maybe you still have no prospects for a New Years Eve date.  Let’s just cut to the chase. Check One: Just like when you are digging through your stored Christmas decor look around you. Are you storing any wannabe prospects around that will just never make the cut? Are there any dead trees that need to take a dump?  Then get rid of them.  Check two: Are all your close friends bitter singles?  It is imperative to surround yourself with positive energy.  After all, you don’t want to get caught up at another one of those overcrowded hotel New Year parties with your girls wearing brand new high heels that are stinging your feet so bad your baby toes go to sleep early.  Check three: Paint me a picture of your social life.  Where have you been lately as a part of your night life festivities?  If you say out with the girls at Luckie Lounge, The Pearl Bistro, or Atlanta’s other club spots I am slowly revving up Santa’s reindeer and running over you.  If you say some trendy spot in town like Harlem Bar, Table 1280 at the High, or an event at Urban Grind I maybe making small snow balls to lightly bounce off your head.  Okay that last one may have been way harsh because those are up there as some of the most unique places in Atlanta I personally love but again if you are meeting a “gang” of your girlfriends at these places please tell me how many men did you meet in the month of November…. Where I am going with this is where have you been where the event, environment, etc was conducive to meeting single men?  Well have no fear Larae has your New Years Eve countdown of events you can step outside the box and place yourself at to possibly meet  a nice guy that could lead to a great New Years Eve date.  Because I know you want to see yourself at a nice laid back spot where you don’t have to worry about standing up all night and listening to the same top 40 R&B Hits.  How about Cafe Circa on possibly a group New Year’s Eve date where you can enjoy great drinks, food, and live must from a local artist Eva Kennedy.  So are you with me? Yes! I knew you would! So now throughout the month I will blog and update you on all the events around the city where you can get yourself out there and do some pre-holiday mixing and mingling. First stop: NetParty has moved their corporate headquarters to Atlanta and is celebrating with an event at Whisky Park located in the W Buckhead.  Trust me ladies I have been to a Net Party event and this is a great place to meet men.  But you have to promise me something… you will not enter into this event with a bag of prereqs.  The goal of these events I am finding around the city for you to go to is to have a great time and meet SOMEONE.  You should never be going anywhere thinking maybe I will meet my husband tonight or maybe I will meet the “one”.  Your job is to show up with the expectation of a great time with great men and let the rest run its course.  If you are interested in the NetParty event tomorrow December 2 visit http://atlanta.netparty.com/networking-events.html

Tis the season to be Jolly! Or if you are like some you are maybe more like “bah hum bug” another year single.  It is December 1st and you maybe you still have no prospects for a New Years Eve date.  Let’s just cut to the chase. Check One: Just like when you are digging through your stored Christmas decor look around you. Are you storing any wannabe prospects around that will just never make the cut? Are there any dead trees that need to take a dump?  Then get rid of them.  Check two: Are all your close friends bitter singles?  It is imperative to surround yourself with positive energy.  After all, you don’t want to get caught up at another one of those overcrowded hotel New Year parties with your girls wearing brand new high heels that are stinging your feet so bad your baby toes go to sleep early.  Check three: Paint me a picture of your social life.  Where have you been lately as a part of your night life festivities?  If you say out with the girls at Luckie Lounge, The Pearl Bistro, or Atlanta’s other club spots I am slowly revving up Santa’s reindeer and running over you.  If you say some trendy spot in town like Harlem Bar, Table 1280 at the High, or an event at Urban Grind I maybe making small snow balls to lightly bounce off your head.  Okay that last one may have been way harsh because those are up there as some of the most unique places in Atlanta I personally love but again if you are meeting a “gang” of your girlfriends at these places please tell me how many men did you meet in the month of November….

Where I am going with this is where have you been where the event, environment, etc was conducive to meeting single men?  Well have no fear Larae has your New Years Eve countdown of events you can step outside the box and place yourself at to possibly meet  a nice guy that could lead to a great New Years Eve date.  Because I know you want to see yourself at a nice laid back spot where you don’t have to worry about standing up all night and listening to the same top 40 R&B Hits.  How about Cafe Circa on possibly a group New Year’s Eve date where you can enjoy great drinks, food, and live must from a local artist Eva Kennedy.  So are you with me? Yes! I knew you would! So now throughout the month I will blog and update you on all the events around the city where you can get yourself out there and do some pre-holiday mixing and mingling.

First stop: NetParty has moved their corporate headquarters to Atlanta and is celebrating with an event at Whisky Park located in the W Buckhead.  Trust me ladies I have been to a Net Party event and this is a great place to meet men.  But you have to promise me something… you will not enter into this event with a bag of prereqs.  The goal of these events I am finding around the city for you to go to is to have a great time and meet SOMEONE.  You should never be going anywhere thinking maybe I will meet my husband tonight or maybe I will meet the “one”.  Your job is to show up with the expectation of a great time with great men and let the rest run its course.  If you are interested in the NetParty event tomorrow December 2 visit http://atlanta.netparty.com/networking-events.html